My co-workers resent me for taking time off

DEAR HARRIETTE: I went through a very tough personal loss a few months ago and took bereavement leave from work for two weeks.

Harriette Cole

My boss and supervisors were wonderful and understanding, but my co-workers did not seem to understand at all.

I came back, and most of my co-workers seemed to be upset with me for being gone. It’s really like they resent me for leaving them to make up for my absence.

I’m extremely hurt, and I do not feel supported in my grief at all. How do I handle this?

No Empathy

DEAR NO EMPATHY: People who have never suffered loss sometimes lack the capacity to feel others’ pain. The very definition of empathy is one’s ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

It sounds like your colleagues were thinking about themselves, not you.

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